What is a miscarriage?
A miscarriage is the spontaneous pregnancy
loss before 20 weeks of pregnancy. (After 20 weeks, the loss
of a baby is referred to as a still-birth).
It is estimated that some 20% of unknown
pregnancies end in miscarriage. Early pregnancy loss most
commonly results from a problem in the developing pregnancy.
The loss of a baby, whether early or
late in a pregnancy is usually a sudden and unexpected experience
resulting in many different emotions.
Parents feel shocked, confused and distressed
by the sense of having no real control over the pregnancy,
particularly when they believe they were doing their best
for the baby.
Common feelings include emptiness, anger,
disappointment, sadness and a sense of isolation.
Attachment to an unborn baby is unavoidable
so grief is inevitable when that baby dies.
There is no greater intimacy than that
between a mother and her baby. This intimacy creates an indelible
imprint in the mind of the mother. In her memory is stored
the individual characteristics of the child.
Parents need to grieve the loss of one
child and recover part of themselves that they invested in
that baby before they can get to know a subsequent child.
There is still a great deal not known
about the many possible reasons for miscarriage and it is
usually difficult to identify a cause.
The main causes are thought to be:- |