'I felt totally helpless. I felt like a failure. How could I resist, when everyone was just trying to help me? And they were the only source of support I had.'

Judith:

'I wasn't told that having an abortion would create an unbelievable self-hatred that would consume me and lead to distrust, suspicion and the utter inability to care about myself and others - including my four children. I wasn't told that hearing babies cry would trigger such anger that I wouldn't be able to be around babies at all.

I wasn't told that it would become impossible to look into my own eyes in the mirror. Or that my confidence would be so shaken that I would become unstable to make important life decisions. My self-hatred kept me from pursuing my goal of becoming a registered nurse. I didn't think I deserved success.

I wasn't told that I would come to hate all those who advised me to have an abortion, because they were my accomplices in the death of my babies. I wasn't told that having an abortion with my husband's consent would cause me to hate the father of my children, or that I would be unable to sustain any satisfying lasting fulfilling relationships.

I wasn't told that I could become suicidal in the Autumn of every year, when both of my babies should have been born. I wasn't told that on the birthdays of my living children, I would remember the two for whom I would never make a birthday cake, or that on Mother's day I would remember the two who would never send me a card, or that every Christmas I would remember the two for whom there would never by any presents.

My abortions were supposed to be a "quick fix" for my problems, but they didn't tell me that there would be no 'quick fix' for my regrets.

I had gone to my pastor before both abortions. He said that babies were "just a blob" too, so when I went afterwards and asked why I felt so dirty, he said, "God forgives." I asked God to forgive me and my pastor said He did. But I didn't feel forgiven. I still felt unclean and undeserving.

I went to a psychiatric hospital and they gave me shock treatments. It didn't help. I became a compulsive eater. Food didn't help. I became anorexic as a form of self punishment. That came close to killing me; I had two strokes.

I tried alcohol. It only helped temporarily. The torment would still be there when I woke up.

Alice:

"The first few years after the abortion were fine. Then when I had my first baby I went into shock. It suddenly hit me that this was a baby. I had panic attacks and five years of illness, thinking I would die. I went to the doctor every month and although the abortion was on my record he didn't see that it was the cause."

Alice did not realise the cause either and just thought she was ill. It was her mother who eventually suggested the illness and attacks might be due to the abortion. "In the last few years I've had counselling (for the abortion), which finished about two years ago and since then, for the first time, I've lived a normal life."

Carol:

"I was a very open-minded, pro-choice feminist (but after my abortion), I hated myself and Jim so much that I could no longer keep it inside. I felt very pathetic, instigating fights between us."

Melissa:

"I haven't been able to sleep for three months . . I eat and I feel sick, I am constantly arguing with my husband, my mother, my in-laws and my brother. What upsets me most is the fact that I am treating my three-year-old boy badly. Yet, I love him and I do not want to hurt him. I must be cured straight away because I fear I'm on the edge of madness. I have terrible dreams, which afterwards I cannot remember. I wake up suddenly and I switch on the light. I often sleep with the light on. I shiver and I am cold. I am off sick at work. I feel as if I am going mad and I cannot bear making my little boy suffer any more. He has seen me change and I feel myself that I have changed. If in the past I felt any pleasure from making love with my husband, now I feel none at all. In fact, I find it physically revolting. I feel that he is far away from me, that everybody is. I have the feeling that at any moment some terrible disaster is going to happen to me. I sense a catastrophe around the corner and I am afraid of going out by myself.

I started a job in a hospital but after a couple of months, I had to leave work as the clinical environment kept triggering memories of my abortions and I had become unable to function.

I crawled into my GP's office sobbing, barely able to walk or speak. As I told her of my feelings, I encountered a wall of disbelief. I was scoffed at: "But your abortions were over 15 years ago!" I watched as she struggled to find the sympathy she felt she should show. It is hard enough to talk about your abortions, let alone having to cope with denial on the part of the practitioner."

Nancy:

"It's so hard to put into words how the abortion affected me. I became a tramp and slept with anyone and everyone. I engaged in unprotected sex and each month when I wasn't pregnant I would go into a deep depression. I was rebellious. I wanted my parents to see what I had become. I dropped out of uni. I tried suicide, but didn't have the guts to slit my wrists or blow my brains out. I couldn't get my hands on sleeping pills, so I resorted to over the counter sleep aids and booze.

When that failed, I then tried to make relationships work with me, any man. I was driven with a need to have a child and knew if I was married my parents couldn't do anything about it."

Sally:

"Within 60 days I was in what I now call the 3D's - drugs, daring and death and that's where I remained for 3 years. I was doing drugs constantly and never went straight. I went to church stoned. I went to my job stoned. I ruined my career.

I was living on the edge of a daring life. I was the person you saw on the ski slopes coming down missing the trees, doing flips and hitting the ski jumps at 90 miles per hour. I was driving fast and drinking because I had lost my self worth. I had everything bottled up within me. I was waiting for life to be snatched from me because it had lost its meaning and I wanted to die to atone for the one I had allowed to be taken."

Jenny:

"Within a month of the abortion, my hair started turning grey. I almost lost my part-time job because I cried so often at work. When I drove the car, I was frequently blinded by tears and had several minor accidents, any one of which could have been serious. I often had thought of killing myself and my children."